![]() We love Pride and celebrating the radicalism of us being able to freely love and celebrate ourselves and each other as the humans we are. We are both pansexual though I mostly just ID as queer. Her ability to understand the complexities of gender has helped our relationship tremendously. But we have now been loving and healing together since 2019 and married since 2021. We dated briefly 19 years ago but neither of us was in a good situation, so we got separated for 15 years! I looked everywhere for this girl and finally found her. However, I wasn't out yet and was not as comfortable or confident as I am now. ![]() The moment I looked into her eyes, I knew she was going to be my wife. She was a dancer at a strip club and I worked on their website. (Sometimes I think Charlie is the only reason I have celebrated every month I've been on testosterone because they're so adamant about it!) This year we're also headed to San Francisco pride and are very excited to join the Trans March!” –Olive, Heather (she/they) and Jack (he/they) Charlie and I celebrate Pride every day by supporting each other and being in community with other queer and trans folks! We like to celebrate our milestones throughout the year in big and small ways. For Charlie, Pride means being themself and being true to who they are, and celebrating how far they've come to be the person they are now. There is so much freedom in our relationship, and it's a wonderful thing to know that at any point, the structure of our relationship can change or be removed entirely.įor me, Pride means remembering our queer ancestors and celebrating the joys of living outside the gender binary. We're also free to be ourselves and let the roles present themselves naturally. We're free to make decisions about what roles we want to take on. Relationship roles are often very gendered, but with Charlie and I, the roles are whatever we want them to be. The dynamic of our relationship is not constricted to the ways that others perceive us. ![]() Before, people always saw me as a woman with a man or a woman with a woman. Being in a T4T relationship is vastly different from my other relationships. Our relationship can't exist within the confines of societal expectations, so we have to commit to being our own biggest fans, loving ourselves when others won't, and appreciating how vast and limitless our identities are. Being in a T4T nonbinary relationship forces you to question everything. ![]() They understood that I needed time and space to grow and our relationship has been a safe and wonderful place to do just that! Our relationship helps me reflect on my identity every day. As a trans person, they were so supportive of my process of coming into myself. I began questioning my gender about three months before Charlie and I started dating, and I'd be lying if I said that their overwhelming love and acceptance of my journey didn't have anything to do with us getting together. When Charlie and I met, I wasn't aware of how expansive my gender was. We've been together now for almost two years! We worked alongside each other for a year before becoming friends and deciding to start dating. We were both writing tutors at our college's writing center. Olive (they/them) and Charlie (they/them) These interviews serve as an ever-present reminder that no two relationships are the same - the nuanced varieties of all the ways the LGBTQIA+ community love each other only make this community more vibrant.Ī big thank you to all of the contributors below for being so open and willing to share their stories. (It's always Pride Month at VGL.) Often, the first three letters of the LGBTQIA+ acronym receive more attention than the rest, so we reached out to trans people to talk about their unique experiences with love and their identity. At Very Good Light, we look to provide a platform for trans voices all year round. How's your Pride Month going? Good? Staying hydrated, I hope.
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